We often declare ourselves judges of others. We think, we firmly believe, that we have the knowledge and capacity to judge what others do or say. But I disagree. I believe that one can only judge oneself. Let me tell you why…

Two women happened to coincide sitting on a bench in a park on a warm, Summer afternoon. Both had baby trolleys and both babies were crying their hearts out. Both ladies picked their babies and started feeding them. One of the mothers put the baby to her breast while the other brought out a bottle and started feeding her little girl. 

The breastfeeding mother looked at the other one with a scowl on her face. ‘Bottles!’ she thought. ‘What a lazy mother. Doesn’t she care for her baby? Doesn’t she know that breastfeeding is much better for both of them?’

The second mother didn’t even see the smirk on the other woman’s face. She was blissfully thinking: ‘I’m so happy to have you, my little one. Not even losing my breasts to cancer matters anymore, now that you’re here.’

We judge the world based on our knowledge and experience. Our knowledge and experience are unique to us. We can’t possibly know the circumstances, the knowledge and experience of others. When we judge them, we’re judging them from our knowledge and experience while ignoring theirs and their circumstances.

We all do what we think is best under the circumstances. Nobody makes mistakes just for the sake of making them. So next time you’re about to judge somebody, remember that you don’t have all the pieces to their personal puzzle.

Enjoy life… all of it,

Jessica J. Lockhart