My family and I should have been by the beach today. But life is full of fun and we’re not where we thought we’d be. We are in an unexpected city, helping somebody at the hospital and improvising a celebratory dinner for tonight…
I was dreaming of that beach, of a nice little family break, of the walks, talks and meals we would share. I was dreaming of the peace, the quiet and the fun… and here I am. In a grey, rainy town, surrounded by doctors and improvising meals.
Things happen in life. Unexpected ones sometimes. Unplanned most. And when things happen, we’re given a choice: the choice to feel miserable for what didn’t happen or the choice to make the best of what did happen.
Both choices are real and both are right. Some people choose to feel upset, angry or disappointed. Their heart fills up with pain and sadness and they complain to others or to themselves. That’s their choice.
I choose to make the best of what comes. I choose to look for the silver lining, for the fun of unexpected gifts, for the chance to live something I would maybe never plan. Life is a big, unplanned adventure. True, I expected something else, something that might in theory make me happier. But what I expected isn’t here; did not become a reality. My reality is another one. So I embrace the one I have, the only real one in front of me and try and make the best of it.
I went shopping this morning with my daughter. We bought something different for dinner, something that might taste good and help us enjoy. Instead of letting our thoughts focus on missing the beach, we’ll toast and delight in each other’s company. At the end of the day, that’s all that matters. It’s all that matters to me because I choose to make it so.
These days, many people suffer because they dream of perfect, happy days; days of love, days of gratitude and days of sharing. They try to make sure that everything is as they want it to be. And when their expectations aren’t met, they choose to feel bad, upset, sad or angry. But it really only is a matter of choice. How do you choose to interpret your reality? How do you choose to react? How do you choose to feel when expectations aren’t meet and life gives you a surprise?
What you dreamed and imagined didn’t happen. Something else is here. I suggest you give yourself permission to enjoy it. After all, it’s all you have.
Enjoy life… ALL of it,
Jessica J. Lockhart – humanology – www.jessicajlockhart.com
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