Failure

Humanology

What does failure mean? Who decides when you fail or succeed? Who sets the goals? Who establishes the rules? Who judges the outcomes?

What does failure mean? Who decides when you fail or succeed? Who sets the goals? Who establishes the rules? Who judges the outcomes?

Failure is the way we measure ourselves or others.

Imagine a race. To many, not winning the race would mean failing. But I’m sure you know of cases in which just reaching the finishing line represents a huge success.

Failure is never objective. Failure and success are man-made. There are no “success rules” in nature. Even death can be a success story depending on the circumstances. The death of a zebra is the successful feeding story of the lions.

Failure is always in our minds. We create or accept the rules by which we play. We tell ourselves: “I will fail unless I do X or Y.” Or: “people will think I failed unless I do X or Y.” By accepting those rules, we create the concept of failure in our minds. We accept it. We apply it. We live by it.

Imagine I spend months preparing a very important exam. When the day comes, I don’t do well. My grades are not good enough. I don’t pass. Did I fail? I didn’t pass the exam, true. Does that mean I failed? I don’t think so. I think it only means I didn’t pass the exam. I learned a lot in the process. I learned and grew, so I somehow also succeeded.

Failure is our way of interpreting a situation. As we are the ones setting the rules and applying them, we are the ones creating failure.

“But,” some people might say, “following your way of thinking, many people would do nothing with their lives.” So what if they choose that? I ask. It’s each person’s choice. If somebody doesn’t pass an exam, that person will have to decide what to do next. It might not mean failing to them, even if it does to you. Imagine the yogis or ancient hermits. Were their lives big failures? Says who?

Failure only exists in the minds of those who set the rules. Instead of asking yourself whether you’re failing or not, why don’t you question your set of rules first?

Enjoy life… ALL of it,

Jessica J. Lockhart – humanology – www.jessicajlockhart.com

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