HAPPINESS IS loving what you see in the mirror when you look at yourself in the mornings.
– Jessica J. Lockhart
Many people look for happiness outside themselves; in their relationships with others or in their world. Unfortunately, they often miss it because they can’t look at themselves in the mirror and fully love what they see.
In their opinion, to love oneself like that is almost sinful. In their view, we should devote ourselves to correcting what is wrong or imperfect in us, thus pursuing constant improvement.
There is another way to approach ourselves and the world as well, though. It is born out of accepting ourselves just the way we are, with our defects and our virtues, with our weaknesses and our strengths. Nobody has a defect or a weakness for pleasure; just to have them; just to hurt themselves or because they simply want them. Our defects and weaknesses are there because we don’t know how to do it any other way. And in spite of that, we still punish ourselves for them. What would happen if we tried to understand ourselves, instead? What if we accepted that we are still growing and learning and that today we are the ones we are, the way we are, and accepted and loved ourselves, so we could continue growing without punishing ourselves for not being perfect yet?
I don’t know any human being who makes mistakes or displays weaknesses for no reason. There always is a reason that results in our actions. When we do what we do, the reason seems logical and plausible. It’s very easy to judge and question it later.
Looking at ourselves in the mirror and accepting who we are, loving our fragility and our weaknesses while respecting our growth and our current level is fundamental when trying to reach true happiness.
Look at yourself in the mirror. Accept yourself. Love yourself. Learn to love the human being that you are unconditionally. And then, only then, look for whatever makes you happy.
Enjoy life… ALL of it,
Jessica J. Lockhart is a humanologist, writer and international speaker. Follow her here: