Many people live in terror in the world today. Terror is caused by others for many different reasons. There are those who cause terror because:
1) They need to feel greater, bigger, stronger than others
2) They believe they have to defeat their enemies to truly be
3) They think the world owes them something they will never receive
4) It’s the only voice they think they have
So, basically, those causing the terror are just grown-up bullies, people who feel belittled and insecure and need to step on others to somehow be stronger. They need to hit, kill, abuse or destroy and vent their rage to feel like they’re worth it. At the end of the day, then, they’re a bunch of miserable, sad, unfulfilled human beings.
If my reaction is like theirs, if I turn against them and return violence and anger back to them, I will become just like them. I will strike back to somehow feel stronger or bigger than them or to defeat them or to get paid for the debt they acquired with me by attacking me first. If my reaction is like their actions, I become one of them.
Instead, I ask myself. Why? How can a human being feel so very hurt, so very upset, so unloved to need to destroy others to feel bigger, stronger or heard? What are we doing to our own species to cause so much insecurity, so many limiting beliefs in so many? Because that’s exactly what’s causing all this terror: the beliefs of some. When terrorists, murderers, bullies and others are born, they have no hatred in them, they have no destructive beliefs. Something happens in their lives that makes them believe all the above: they need to feel greater, they need to defeat others, and so on.
If I turn against them and strike the way they do, I will be confirming their beliefs: ‘See, we were right!’ they will feel and say.
I don’t want to do that. That’s what humanity has been doing for eons. That’s what perpetuated those beliefs over and over again. Instead, I want to try something else. I want to offer them a different perspective. I want to show them that there’s another way.
I choose to send the world my love, not my hatred. I choose to share my support of all human beings, those who see and those who don’t, instead of fighting back. If our species united against all displays of hatred, if we all supported those suffering, if we all shared love instead of stepping on others to be bigger, instead of applauding those on top of other human beings… if we all shared love and cared for one another… bullies would be no more.
I love you,
Jessica J. Lockhart – humanology – www.jessicajlockhart.com
Jessica J. Lockhart is a humanologist, author of 4 books and renowned international speaker. Follow her here: