This is the season to love and share; the season to hug one another and open our hearts and homes to people we often ignore. This is the season to ponder and plan, to introspect and wish, to dream and be good. A very big part of the world historically turned this season into a symbol of peace and celebration. In time, it also became a symbol of expenditure.
Today, many voices question this season saying that it’s all fake and artificial.
This what I believe…
Many, many, many human beings accept having this season as a time for everything I said above. Many people do make the effort to share some happy moments with others and to engage in activities and plans they would otherwise reject or neglect. Some of them do so for the sake of children, so little ones have a magical moment in the year to dream and wish. Others do it because it’s a tradition in their culture. Still others do it because they really want to make the effort.
Whatever the reason, my question is, why not?
Here we have a season that fosters love and understanding, respect and humanity, charity and decency. What is wrong with having a season (even if artificially) devoted to that?
Some say it’s wrong because those goals should exist all year round and they don’t. To those who say that, I respond: who’s preventing you from pursuing them each and every day of your life? If others can only pursue those goals for a few days a year, why not let them? Why do we reject the good just because it’s temporary? Why not take whatever good there is instead of rejecting it just because it’s transient?
Others say the season is fake. My response to them is: nobody is asking you to fake it. You can decide to love, help and embrace the people you truly care for. If you really don’t want to be with certain members of your family or friends, why should you? You can be with others and still spread love and happiness among those. Is there really nobody you’d like to acknowledge and cherish, even if for a few days? Isn’t there anyone you’d like to say thank you to, anyone you’d like to do something special for, anyone you’d like to share some special moments with? Those should be your season companions. The spirit of this season will become whatever you want it to be.
And still others reject this season because it brings back sad memories… memories of wishes unfulfilled, of love unrequited. To them my response is: the past is gone. The present is here. Why not create new memories today? Why not experience and enjoy the present? Choosing melancholy over joy these days is your decision. I choose to look for kindness and warmth.
I believe all human beings could profit from a season like this; a season consciously accepted as a time to love and share, to look for good instead of evil, to focus on those we love and stop focusing on those we don’t. I truly believe that this artificially created season could become an oasis in our lives that each of us could fill with memories of love and companionship. It’s our choice. It’s for us to celebrate or not.
The world is ours. Our lives are ours. We choose what to make of them. What’s wrong with choosing to be happy and letting positive events, feelings and emotions guide us, even if for a few days? For centuries, some of our human cultures extolled pain, deprivation and suffering as the way to glory. For centuries, being happy or joyful was akin to sin or unholiness. Funnily enough, though, those same cultures defended loving one another, charity, loyalty and helping others as basic human duties. I believe humanity is ready to take a step forward and seek glory through love. The time is ripe for us to grow as human beings by accepting what’s good in ourselves and others instead of constantly seeking the bad. It’s time to enjoy and rejoice. It’s time to give ourselves permission to relax and feel good about ourselves and others.
In a world in which there is so much suffering, why fight against some days devoted to love and to helping others?
True, there will be some who will continue fighting, killing, plundering. True, there will still be suffering in the world. It’s very sad. But maybe our little effort, made from awareness and goodwill, sheds a little light and warmth. If we all choose to do good instead of criticizing and complaining about evil, won’t we already be contributing and creating something positive?
And maybe some time in the future, if the world accepted having this volunteer time devoted to love, friendship and humanity, we could expand the days and turn this season into something bigger or more often celebrated each year. Can you imagine what would happen if the whole world truly devoted a few days to celebrating love and helping other human beings? Imagine…
I choose to enjoy life, ALL of it. What about you?
Jessica J. Lockhart – humanology – www.jessicajlockhart.com
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