Quite a few of my clients complain that they feel stuck; that they have the impression that their lives are not moving forward. Together we study the many possible causes for that and often discover that they feel like that because they developed the habit of starting many new things but barely ever finishing them. Having too many things to do or too many plans and activities can sometimes lead us to not really concluding them. They then sit abandoned but pending in our minds and create a feeling of utter cluttering and congestion that can block us and prevent our evolution.
The accumulation of unfinished business in our mind is an unseen burden on our capacity. Even if we subconsciously know they are still undone, we still find new ones to occupy us.
Ask yourself how may of those unfinished stories are hidden in the back of your head. Do you have unconcluded studies, pending chores, unfinished commitments? Do you have the impression that there’s not enough hours in the day to do them all? Do you feel overwhelmed by them?
This is the way to handle them.
- Make a list of all your unfinished businesses.
- Next to each of the items, write “yes” for those you still want to complete and “no” for those you decide to abandon or quit.
- Accept that the list of “no” business represents all the plans, chores and activities that you will NOT resume in the future and today decide to give up.
- Go back to the list of “yes” business. Choose one, whichever you prefer, to be the first one you’re going to resume AND conclude. Set a realistic deadline for it.
- Devote yourself to concluding that until-now unfinished business by the deadline you chose. Focus only on that one until it is completed.
- Go back to the list of “yes” business. Choose the next one you want to resume and conclude and so on until your list is empty.
- Don’t embark on or accept new activities or chores until your current “yes” business list is empty.
Although commitment is very important for human beings, we sometimes want to do too much for many different reasons. Feeling committed, we accept things we don’t really want to do or, even if we are interested, later change our minds. Learn to say no and learn to finish what you start, one thing at a time. Your life will be much more comfortable and will flow much faster and easily.
As the list of unfinished business shrinks, so will your feeling of being stuck and overwhelmed. As the items disappear from your list, so will your lack of energy and drive. Try this once and you will never let that list grow.
Enjoy life, ALL of it,
Jessica J. Lockhart – humanology – www.jessicajlockhart.com
If you have unfinished business and don’t know how to move on, you might be interested in attending my Coaching For You seminar next February 25 and 26 in Switzerland and learn all the tools you need to unblock yourself. More details: COACHING FOR YOU – THE SEMINAR